In preparation for Christmas, Miyuki Uekusa, a relationship and marriage activity advisor, presents her latest views on marriage activity. She also shared her latest views on marriage activity, "Points to keep in mind when asking people around you to introduce you to a potential partner.

Miyuki Uekusa, representative of the marriage agency Marry Me (MSP Inc., Head office: Shibuya-ku, Tokyo), with a track record of over 1,000 successful marriages, will present her latest views on marriage activity-related issues.

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Marriage Counseling Agency Marry Me Representative: Miyuki Uekusa

What people who are in the midst of marriage activity should do before Christmas

Next month is Christmas. For those who are engaged in marriage activity, it is the most important time of the year. It is also the day when marriage proposals are concentrated in marriage counseling offices. For those who say, "I don't have a girlfriend yet, but I want to get married as soon as possible," this may be a very impatient time.

In such a case, you should first try to ask someone you are a little curious about, or someone you think might be a little nice, out on a Christmas date. This is not the time to say, "I don't know if they like me..." or "I'm too embarrassed to do that. If it seems too difficult to do so on a one-on-one basis, then you should make a move, even if it is a dinner meeting with several people.

If you don't have such a partner, you should ask people around you right now, "I want to get married. Please introduce me to someone good! Please introduce me to someone. Nowadays, there are fewer and fewer people who can give you advice and advice on love and marriage. In the past, it was common for supervisors in the workplace to ask their subordinates, both men and women of the right age, if there was anyone they liked, and they would introduce single people to their partners and bring them together. Therefore, unless you voluntarily tell people around you that you want to get married, it will be difficult to expect introductions.

■Introducers act as intermediaries in relationships that continue afterwards.

If you are introduced to someone, you are very lucky. If you are introduced to someone, you are very lucky because someone who knows you has recommended them to you because they think they are the right person for you. There must be some point where you are a good fit, and you will be able to talk about it.

However, one thing that people who are in the middle of their marriage activity have to be careful about is that the person who introduces you to someone else may or may not want to marry you. No matter how good a match you feel you are with someone, if he/she has the mindset of "I just want to have fun right now" or "I just want a partner for Christmas," marriage will be rather far away.

What is important here is the "acquaintance who introduced you. Ask that person to play the role of "matchmaker. Specifically, ask him or her to come to the first meeting. Then, introduce him or her to the other party by saying, "He or she is a very important friend of mine (or junior colleague). This will make the other party feel responsible, thinking, "I have to do this properly" or "I have to take good care of him or her. If it is difficult to have them follow you, you can say at the meeting, "Mr. 00 boned me to meet you. Thank you very much." Greet them with the name of the person who introduced you. And be sure to make another appointment to meet again, even if you don't feel very comfortable. Since the introducer expected you to be a good fit, there must be a reason for that. Then, as soon as the first meeting is over, say to the person who introduced you, "He was a very nice person. Thank you for introducing me. I'm going to meet him again next time, and I'd appreciate your support. If you involve the introducer in this way and ask them to play the role of matchmaker, the relationship is less likely to become temporary and irresponsible, and the subsequent development will be completely different.

Marriage Counseling Agency Marry Me will continue to provide marriage activity advice in line with the times.

◆Marriage Consulting Agency Marry Me Representative: Miyuki Uekusa Career

Advisor for love and marriage activity, Representative Director of MSP Inc.

Ltd., a staffing agency specializing in the apparel industry, in 1995. In 2009, she started Marry Me, a marriage counseling agency, utilizing her coordination skills and achievements cultivated through her experience in the industry.

For the past 14 years, he has advised approximately 2,000 people a year, including those on the radio, and boasts a marriage rate of approximately 80% (*), compared to the industry average of 15%. He has written several books, including "Be a Wagamama Woman (Kodansha)," "What Only People Who Seize Good Marriages Value (co-authored with Emi Suuchi, published by Seishun Publications)," and "The Art of Marriage (Chuokoron Shinsha).

(*) Calculated by dividing the number of couples who have successfully married by the total number of couples who have withdrawn. 82% of couples who have successfully married since January 2022.

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